For me, this has been one of the greatest discoveries of adoption. I know many people have heard the idea that children in adoption processes were not loved or wanted, and that adoptive parents come in to \u201csave\u201d them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I can\u2019t speak for every story, only for my own two experiences. But I can say with certainty that this was not our case. My children were deeply loved from the very beginning by their birth parents. So much so, that they made a plan to ensure their children would have a future full of opportunities, love, and care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Through our journeys, we witnessed how, based on unconditional and selfless love, the birth parents carefully chose us and shaped part of their children\u2019s destiny.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2665\ufe0f DNA does not define our love<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I don\u2019t remember exactly who said it, maybe because part of me preferred to block out that moment, but I do remember being asked how it was possible to love someone who didn\u2019t share your blood. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The question felt superficial and out of place, but I took a deep breath and answered with examples of love that are not tied to genetics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n My husband, for one, is my greatest love, my prince charming. He doesn\u2019t share my DNA, but I love him deeply. He is the one I chose as my partner in this journey of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n My friends, who are my chosen family, some who have been by my side since childhood and others who joined me in adulthood, also hold an essential place in my heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For us, DNA had nothing to do with the love we felt for our children. Even before we chose adoption, that love was already growing inside us for these little ones we hadn\u2019t met yet, who had no faces, who at that time were only a dream. <\/p>\n\n\n\n That love only grew stronger with every visit to the adoption agency, with every form signed, and even in the midst of uncertainty and waiting. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \ud83d\udc9c God\u2019s timing and plan are perfect<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Without a doubt, the greatest lesson adoption gave me was to trust in God\u2019s timing and plan. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Before beginning this journey, I thought building a family was a linear process: get married, get pregnant, watch your children grow. I trusted that it would be that way for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When the road began to close, I lacked the maturity to understand that those obstacles were not coincidences but detours God was placing to guide us toward the right path. Over time, I learned that His plans are different, perfect, and that my role was simply to trust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The road to my children opened not only my heart but also my mind. It taught me that every step has a purpose, every stage is part of the plan. The waiting, the uncertainty, the paperwork, the interviews, the unexpected phone calls, all of it came at the exact time it needed to, preparing us for what was ahead. They were like the ingredients in this recipe of life that God had prepared for us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I know every adoption experience is unique, and these are the lessons I learned from my own journey. I hope in some way they inspire those who are seeking their path to family, and also help to educate and show that adoption goes far beyond misconceptions or old ideas that portray it as charity or exclusion. <\/p>\n\n\n\n La adopci\u00f3n est\u00e1 basada en el amor y la conexi\u00f3n, tambi\u00e9n trae consigo mucho aprendizaje, une corazones y crea lazos desde el respeto, la intenci\u00f3n y el cari\u00f1o profundo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Every story has its own value and beauty, and every step in the journey has a purpose that transforms the lives of all who are part of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Grateful to have you here, heart to heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Cuando comenzamos el camino de la adopci\u00f3n, pensaba que el resultado de este proceso era poder cumplir nuestro sue\u00f1o de ser padres, formar una familia ofreciendo un hogar, estabilidad, amor y cuidado a ni\u00f1os que no lo ten\u00edan. A medida que fui entiendo el proceso, lo primero que me di cuenta fue que la manera […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3676,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[21],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3674","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-maternidad-por-adopcion"],"blocksy_meta":[],"yoast_head":"\nMelli<\/h2>\n\n\n
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