Sometimes the kids are with me while I\u2019m writing. They see the photos, ask what I\u2019m doing, and I explain it to them. Sometimes I even invite them to write something themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But there is always one common question:
What do I tell them? Where do I begin?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A year of life cannot be easily summarized. So much happens, school, sports, new achievements, emotions, small and big changes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
These letters are small life stories. They are not reports, and certainly not justifications. And even so, I can\u2019t help but feel a little strange choosing what to share. After all, they are their children too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I try to focus on the purpose of these letters: to offer reassurance and affirmation. To know that their children are doing well, that they are loved and cared for. Something like reassurance<\/em>, a way of finding or holding onto peace in a deeply complex decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As I write, I always wonder how they are doing. What moment of their lives they will be in when they read these letters. Whether my children will someday read them too. I almost always have more questions than answers, but still, I find inspiration and feel deeply proud as I tell them how wonderful our children are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n These letters are not just an agreement within our adoption process. They are not meant to explain a decision or summarize an entire life. For me, they are a way of creating presence. Of saying, with care and respect, that our children are well, that they are loved, and that their story continues to be honored.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And I also like to think that one day my children will read these letters. That they will feel the respect and love I have always held for their birthmothers. And that their birthmothers, in turn, have been able to glimpse the children\u2019s lives\u2014without guessing, without doubt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It is for them, for my children, and for us, that I give these letters the importance they deserve\u2014because they are small pieces of our shared story \u2764\ufe0f<\/p>\n\n\n\n Grateful to have you here, heart to heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dentro de nuestras adopciones semi-abiertas, tenemos el acuerdo de enviar una carta anual. Es una especie de resumen, acompa\u00f1ado de fotos, de lo que fue nuestro a\u00f1o o m\u00e1s espec\u00edficamente, el a\u00f1o de los ni\u00f1os. En esas cartas les cuento c\u00f3mo est\u00e1n, qu\u00e9 han vivido y lo mucho que han crecido. Puede sonar simple o […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3732,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[21],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3730","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-maternidad-por-adopcion"],"blocksy_meta":[],"yoast_head":"\nMelli<\/h2>\n\n\n
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